According to CNN, a new study has determined that children in childcare have higher disciplinary problems than those who were cared for by Mom. At the same time, they also noted that it’s impossible to walk into a classroom and pick out those who were in childcare and those who weren’t. Apparently, parenting style still plays a prominent role in a child’s development.
These reports make me crazy. You want to do what’s best for your child and raise him or her the best possible way. For our household, cutting back to a single income isn’t an option. It’s not that we live beyond our means or anything, but the cost of daycare is significantly less than I make a year – and I happen to really like my job! Will it mean reprioritizing my life to make sure I spend “enough time” with my son? Absolutely! Is it something I’m willing to do? Of course.
I’ve resigned myself to the fact that there is no way I will be able to do everything I want to do, so I’m picking those things that are most important to me and absolving myself of the guilt associated with not being able to do everything else. Maybe things will change again once Baby C is here, and if that’s the case, then so be it. But I refuse to believe that I will not be a good mother because I’ve made the decision to return to work.